Today may be Friday the 13th, but Wednesday night was unlucky for Democratic strategist and political commentator Hilary Rosen, thanks to an unfortunate observation about Mitt Romney’s wife, Ann.

As our friend, Joanne Bamberger says:

Every mother is a working mother. PERIOD. I know how much work my one daughter is, so I can’t begin to imagine just how much time and patience it took to raise five boys.

Amen, sister.

Hilary Rosen had no desire to open up a new front in the boring, media-hyped conflict between stay-at-home and work outside-the-home moms. A mother herself, she was trying to point out that Mrs. Romney never had to deal with the challenge of raising her five sons while juggling the demands of a rigid workplace. And as a member of the 1%, she has probably never had to worry about how she’s going to feed her family or pay for their other needs — whether that is healthcare, tuition,  or extracurricular activities. (I wonder if the boys all engage in dressage, too?)

It is unfortunate that this tempest in a teacup has distracted everyone from Mitt Romney’s very real problems understanding what American women are looking for in a leader. Now, we’re back to the silly “Mommy Wars” — which is something I thought was settled a very long time ago (like contraception).

I hate to think the misconception persists that stay-at-home moms are sitting around the house, eating bon-bons… which is why this week’s Pursuit of Happiness Hour recipe is such an ironic choice.

Since Mormon Ann Romney doesn’t drink, I’ll just have to raise my glass and drink to all my “mommy” friends — both those who work inside and outside the home.

SAHM Chocolate BonBon Martini

photo: Donna Schwartz Mills

SAHM Chocolate BonBon Martini

1 1/2 oz. chocolate liqueur
1 1/2 oz. creme de cacao
1/2 oz. vodka
2 1/2 oz. half and half
2 tsp. chocolate syrup (optional, for dribbling on the glass)

Mix the rest of the ingredients into a shaker, add ice. Shake and pour into a frosted martini glass. Dribbling chocolate syrup into the glass ahead of time adds a festive touch.

Take your shoes off and watch TV. Try not to settle on any news channels, or it will defeat the relaxation purpose.